Giving a blowjob is a beautiful way to honor a man we like. It’s not only about pleasuring him but also worshipping his whole being. If you decide to give a man a blowjob, I guess he is pretty special to you. Don’t offer such a gift if you’re not into it, he will know. This is not a reward for good behavior, it is a way of showing him that you admire, respect, and love him just because of who he is.
If you feel shame, aversion, or fear about oral sex, talk to your partner about it or explore the topic with a specialist. Men love us for this if it’s coming from the place of our hearts. His penis is a representation of his inner power, wisdom, softness, courage, of him entirely.
Here are some tips on how to enjoy oral sex that works for me. I invite you to listen to yourself, to notice what feels right for you, what is needed for you and your partner at that moment. Include your joyful and curious part in the process, and leave out the one who is taking herself too seriously. Let’s play!
1. Preparation phase
Atmosphere. Men also have a tender side that can be nourished by creating a loving, intimate and creative atmosphere. Candles, soft light, music, turn off the TV and other distractions.
Soft lips are the key to designing a unique experience. Have a balm handy, or heal yourself with a honey treatment and drink plenty of water during the day.
Take your time, unless agreed otherwise and it’s not about a quick relief, take time to establish a connection between you and your partner, to appreciate the man in front of you.
Men are visual creatures, he wants to see you, design a view he won’t forget. Doing it in your stretched pajamas doesn’t usually turn them on.
Get in the mood, dance, move your hips, take a hot bath, awake your senses, anything that will help you to be present in a moment, relaxed and connected to yourself.
Not so serious. I remember times when I was giving oral sex to my partner as a perfectionist & goal-oriented person. Imagine how a little snot came out destroyed the whole mood. Of course, he didn’t mind, but it was a disaster for me. Nowadays, a good laugh helps to handle those weird moments.
2. Connection creation
Connect with your partner. You can start by looking at each other’s eyes and breath in the same rhythm. If you feel like it, start with a whole-body massage before you get to the main course. Pay attention to length, thickness, texture, color, softness, and firmness of his cock. Use this moment to show how much you adore the man in front of you. Appreciate the beauty, and tell him what you love about him and his penis. Every penis is different, every pleasure is individual, even if you have done it a hundred times.
3. Going for a ride
Start slowly. Even though you know his cock, examine him as if you had never seen him naked before. Commence with kisses, play with your tongue around. Take time to praise each centimeter, his balls, anus, perineum, base, shaft, tip, and foreskin.
Play and improvise. Use your hands, including a massage, stay a little longer on the top, slide your lips, rotate using your tongue, etc. Feel his penis in every state. You can lick, suck, explore, blow, kiss, stroke. Alternate with intensity, direction, pressure, and mix it all.
Do not forget to lubricate, either use organic coconut oil or spit on it, otherwise, it dries and may irritate the delicate skin.
4. Communicate to ecstasy
Ask him what he likes, how would he do it, how this or that feels. I know it sounds crazy imagining talking to him while having his penis in the mouth, just let your hands take the lead for a while. Encourage him to guide you, to express what he feels.
Tell him something you like/appreciate on his penis, like, I love how hard your cock is, how it feels in my mouth, etc.
5. Key points
This is not a porn movie scene, so skip acting or faking. First, he’ll notice it, second, you won’t fancy it.
He wants to see you, show him with your eyes or body how much you like it. Feel it, let your body navigate you.
Let the sounds come out naturally.
Maintain eye contact with him, it creates a deeper connection. I also love to see my partner receiving pleasure and enjoying it, it turns me on!
Breathe, and inspire him to breathe slowly and profoundly, this way, both of you are heading towards a much more ecstatic experience.
6. Practise
To be good at something, we need to train it first. Every man is different, every penis is different, each of us likes something different, every moment is unique. No one wears a black belt from the first encounter with the teacher.
7. Bring him to the next level
Take it as a 3-course dinner menu rather than a fast-food bite, slow down before the point of no return, encourage him to breathe and postpone ejaculation, in the end, he will have an unforgettable experience. Then continue again. To learn more about this topic, check the article, point 9.
8. What to do with semen?
Swallow or spit out? You don’t have to worry about getting fat or pregnant from swallowing semen, just saying. Do whatever is more comfortable for you, just do it gently, with love. Sex is messy, and it is part of its beauty!
9. Closing
Finally, let him relax, but stay together, you don’t have to rush to take a shower or brush your teeth. Be with him, cuddle, hug him, touch him gently or lay your head on his chest. Men are tender and want to feel loved after sex, just like we do.